This week I found myself feeling behind on my List and forgetting about the important of process.  I was late putting up my blog post for www.offbeatfamily.com , I didn’t finish putting up some new pages, well you get the picture. I won’t bore you with details (sounds like an inner voice I need to ignore  no?).

I have noticed that whenever I get on a roll with something and things are going “smoothly”, there always comes a point where I feel stuck or like I have hit a wall.  Usually this leaves me feeling frustrated, and somewhat confused about what has happened “all of a sudden”.

When I am really listening, (not to just to that inner critic who is “poo pooing” me for not doing more or doing better) I can move past this funk of a feeling.  It is when I’m listening in the way that listening works best, with my heart, not my head.

When I listen with my heart the empathy for myself comes out.  I begin to realize that though things seem as if they are not going as “planned” they are going as they should be, as they need to be.

Voices swirl in my head.   On a good day I find the volume and turn up the heart frequency.

Self: I didn’t get the newsletter out– I feel panic

Inner critic “Your subscribers will think you are ignoring them!”

Heart: “You are doing what is right for you, you need to take time for yourself.  Your subscribers will appreciate not being bombarded with newsletters that are put out just for the sake of putting something out.”

Self: I haven’t finished my products page with all the new links for single meditations– I feel disappointment

Inner critic: “You’ll never end up selling any at this rate!”

Heart: “It’s okay dear, these things take time, these meditations are dear to you they need a proper party room!”

When things aren’t going as “planned” it usually means there are other plans in the works, I just haven’t seen them yet.  The more I trust that, feel this, the more things go smoothly,  even when they feel rough.  

The rough parts, the slowing down, the getting stuck is all a part of the process to getting where I need to go.  They are signals for me to shift gears when I am going too fast or ignoring other aspect of my life.  They are reminders to stay present, and listen to my inner needs.  These bumps are gifts to help me to listen more fully to what is important.

I had no idea what I was going to write for this post.  If I had let my inner critic have her way, it would have been nothing.  “After all who wants to read about all the stuff that is going wrong? ” she squeaks.  “Ahhhh, I say holding my hand to my heart, whatever are you talking about? It’s all going write.”  I reply with a smile in my eyes.  “And thank-you dear for giving me something to write about!”

How do you handle the days that don’t seem to be going “right”?

Do you dialogue with self, ignore, distract?

What work best for you? Curious minds want to know.